Have you and your partner fallen out of love?

Today's consultation centers around the issue of one partner falling out of love, either due to the onset of a today! Today's the asSimply mid-life crisis, or a depressive episode. This particular couple had been married for a number of years and have four children. This couple would be described by those around them as a stable middle-class family.

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I have removed any references that may identify the client, but felt that the response to this client is worthy of sharing with so many other couples out there in similarly harrowing circumstances.

Here is my response:

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Amy Waterman
co-author of Save My Marriage Today!
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